SOS! Clinger Alert!

The photo above is an actual photo of me taken this morning. Ok, it’s the Cynthia doll from Rugrats but I swear this is how I look/feel today.

I have a clinger and I don’t know what to do about it! H is having a seriously hard time with L going back to school and it’s definitely throwing his mornings.

Today (and it’s only 9:45 am) I went to the gym after dropping off L and I tried to get H to stay in the childcare room. He cried for 15 minutes and would not let go. Monday he had a rough time at the gym alone too.

Well today, we left. I have serious guilt about not working out but I think my “mom guilt” would be worse if I left him crying and a mess for the full hour.

I’m just looking for suggestions on what you (any of you..moms, dads, babysitters, teachers, aunts, uncles, anyone who loves/takes care of a child) would do or how to handle my little clinger. He’s my baby and he won’t be a baby much longer. I don’t want him to be so distressed he doesn’t want to go to the gym or any classes alone again.

Please comment your suggestions and then come on by for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine.

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Apple Picking 2018

I found a few orchards/farms within a 30 minute drive from us. We narrowed it down to two, since we found out that there were some that you can buy their apples, but not pick..and we are all about the picking experience.

We started our trek to Pine Tree Apple Orchard in White Bear Lake, MN. The drive was nice and the area was cute. We went inside the shop to ask about U-pick and they said they don’t do that there. (Not clearly listed on their website) So we bought some cookies, basically to bribe the boys to get back in the car. (#parentingwin? #parentingfail?)

We drove about 20 more minutes to a farm called Aamodt’s Apple Farm, and I think we found a little slice of heaven!

Notice one of the apples walking away.

This farm was awesome and we plan on going back this year…when it’s slightly cooler! We walked toward the barn and my husband had to go to the bathroom..(always) and he wanted me to note here that they were the cleanest port-a-potties he’s ever been in. đŸ˜‚

Outside of the barn there was corn hole and a bunch of tables for people to sit back and enjoy the drinks, food, and atmosphere…yes DRINKS!

This farm had their own hard cider. They had 3 but ran out of their dry. So we tasted their ginger fizz and semi-sweet. We left with three bottles and they opened one for us to enjoy while we explored the farm and picked apples. There is also a vineyard across the street so they had their wine there too, and even wine slushees (which are my fav!)

They had two size options for apple. The smaller bag was $10 and could hold about 4 lbs of apples and the other was $25 and could hold between 10-12 lbs of apples.

We bought our bag and went into the orchard. The apples smelled so good. The boys were so excited! It was so nice to see them working together to get the apples, and L making sure H didn’t eat the fallen ones. We ate some apples, while we (the adults) drank some apples, and were so merry.

It may have been over 90 degrees out, but I’ll never forget this experience. Seeing L and H partaking in this fun activity together, laughing, exploring, just having an amazing time, made my heart so full. https://thequeenofthebrotherhood.com/img_3027-mp4/

https://www.aamodtsapplefarm.com

Sometimes it’s all about where you end up.

Another adventure today! The park we wanted to go to ended up being really crowded so we went to another park nearby that was flooded the last time we tried to go explore.

We had all intentions of “hiking” and looking for creatures but we ended up literally in the Mississippi River this time. This was Revvie’s first time in the Mississippi River and I think she had just as much fun as the boys!

I was SOOO unprepared! No towels, no toys, nothing! But it didn’t matter! We went with the flow. (This is huge for me đŸ˜‚)

We were all sandy and gross but it was a lot of fun exploring a new park. The boys had no intentions of leaving and wanted to swim!

I guess next time we go anywhere I’ll try to be more prepared and have towels packed! Super thankful for my emergency car blanket today that doubled as a towel!

I’m not ready for the summer weather to change into fall but we will welcome fall and the adventures she brings with open arms.

Minnesota, you are a fun place to explore.

First Day Back to School

My little Batman went back to school today. It was so much harder on me than him! He saw friends he knew and that was that! I called to him and he came back and gave me a big hug before finally entering the building. I stood there hoping for a wave or glance as he went in, but he walked in ready to rule to day!

And seriously how cute is his back pack from Pottery Barn Kids?! It’s the bigger version than the one he had last year…he loves that this one has wheels…my thought was he could use it for travel too!

We got back to school with time to spare so H and I walked around and looked for bugs and flowers! We really missed L but we know he had a great day! He’s going places!

L…we love you, we are thankful for you, and we are proud of you.

It’s ok to ask for help.

Maybe it’s me getting older. Maybe it’s motherhood. I am finally understanding that it’s ok to ask for help.

I have always been a very independent person (strong willed) and as the oldest child in my family (Type A for sure) I have always wanted to do things by myself. I also, now thinking back, felt like there were and are things that I should be doing for myself and by myself.

I don’t know why it’s always been so hard for me to ask for help. Maybe it’s feeling like a failure or seeming like a failure to others. Maybe it’s a pride issue and maybe it’s a little Mom Guilt now that I have two littles.

At 31, I’m finally realizing it’s ok to ask for help…in any aspect of life. Asking for help is still very hard for me but I’m working on it.

In a few weeks I will be going to Washington DC with my husband and leaving the boys to hang out with my in-laws for a few days. The boys are super excited for their time with their grandparents and I know they will have a wonderful time but asking for help or asking for someone to watch my children really was very hard for me, I truly felt like, for a while, if I do this am I failing as a mother?

After really thinking about this short trip, I know that I need this so I can have some time away and to reset. This trip will be great for my husband and I to have some time together to reconnect and just enjoy each other’s company.

I know I have a long way to go. I know I need to practice what I’m preaching here…but it is ok to ask for help. It’s ok to ask for help for your (my) mental, physical, emotional (etc…) health.

Does anyone else have difficulties with this? If so how have you overcome the issue of asking others for help when you need it?

Minnesota’s Largest Candy Store

Happy Labor Day all! We started our morning with bagels and painting and then decided to take a small road trip to a roadside attraction about 45 minutes southwest of the Twin Cities.

We knew it would be slightly crazy with today being a holiday but it was worth checking it out!

There were different candies, treats, and snacks from all over the world. (My husbands favorite were the Japanese Kit Kat bars.

The boys really loved looking at the superheroes that were all around us while we walked the store!

They also had tons of old fashioned sodas and some really funky flavors.

I don’t know if we will make the trip back anytime soon, but we are happy that we went!

If you go, they are opened until the Sunday after Thanksgiving and they open around Memorial Day. They only accept cash or check (there was an ATM on site.)