Maybe it’s me getting older. Maybe it’s motherhood. I am finally understanding that it’s ok to ask for help.
I have always been a very independent person (strong willed) and as the oldest child in my family (Type A for sure) I have always wanted to do things by myself. I also, now thinking back, felt like there were and are things that I should be doing for myself and by myself.
I don’t know why it’s always been so hard for me to ask for help. Maybe it’s feeling like a failure or seeming like a failure to others. Maybe it’s a pride issue and maybe it’s a little Mom Guilt now that I have two littles.
At 31, I’m finally realizing it’s ok to ask for help…in any aspect of life. Asking for help is still very hard for me but I’m working on it.
In a few weeks I will be going to Washington DC with my husband and leaving the boys to hang out with my in-laws for a few days. The boys are super excited for their time with their grandparents and I know they will have a wonderful time but asking for help or asking for someone to watch my children really was very hard for me, I truly felt like, for a while, if I do this am I failing as a mother?
After really thinking about this short trip, I know that I need this so I can have some time away and to reset. This trip will be great for my husband and I to have some time together to reconnect and just enjoy each other’s company.
I know I have a long way to go. I know I need to practice what I’m preaching here…but it is ok to ask for help. It’s ok to ask for help for your (my) mental, physical, emotional (etc…) health.
Does anyone else have difficulties with this? If so how have you overcome the issue of asking others for help when you need it?